Clue 014
One observation from The Full You Field Guide.
Notice what you keep apologizing for. It may be pointing toward something you haven't understood about yourself yet.
Pattern Index: P-3.2
Many of us learn to apologize for parts of ourselves before we ever learn to understand them.
- We apologize for asking too many questions.
- For thinking deeply.
- For needing time alone.
- For feeling things intensely.
- For noticing what other people overlook.
- For caring more than the situation seems to require.
Sometimes an apology is appropriate. But sometimes repeated apologies are evidence that we have mistaken a trait, need, sensitivity, strength, or value for a flaw.
Before deciding that something about you needs to be changed, try asking:
What might this be trying to show me?
The answer may not be that the trait is always helpful or that it never needs boundaries.
The clue may simply be that there is more to understand.
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